The Sunday Post {10/9/16}

Posted October 9th, 2016 by in The Sunday Post / 34 comments

Sunday Post

The Sunday Post is a weekly meme hosted by Caffeinated Book Reviewer. It’s a chance to share news: a post to recap the past week on your blog, showcase books and things we have received. Share news about what is coming up on our blog for the week ahead. Borrowed from Kimba @ Caffeinated Book Reviewer.

It’s been a hot minute hasn’t it? I took a bit of an unannounced hiatus. It was a surprise for me too. I had to take some time to work through some things. That makes it sound way more serious than it actually was. Any long time blogger will tell you that you have moments when you’re just not sure if you want to continue on with it all. I knew I still loved reading but I had to decide if I still loved reading and blogging the way that I used to. The answer turned out to be no. I didn’t. But it was all in my head. I still enjoyed blogging but not the standards to which I held myself.

June was a bit of a wake up call. Being a book blogger at a librarian’s conference sort of opened my eyes a little bit. I thought of myself professionally and did the best that I could at my own expense to spread the booksih love; turns out not everybody sees us professionally. Not everyone behaved that way but I experienced enough of it that it was disheartening and I (foolishly) let it get to me. Now I’m just going to have fun with it. I’ve carved out this space in the vast interwebs and I intend to keep it just that; mine.

I’ve also been spending time trying to find balance. Because of those standards I was keeping myself to I was trying to run myself ragged between my husband’s change of positions and my new household responsibilities, reading, social gatherings, work and the god awful changes that are occurring there, reading, blogging, TV, planning my sister’s baby shower, and my born again zeal for cross stitch. I am now 32 years old and I am still jealous of all of you who have your shit on lock. I’m a work in progress. And I think I’m getting there.

I turned 32 on Wednesday. It wasn’t a big deal (mainly because I hate being the center of attention!) but as I’m writing this Saturday morning when my husband returns from work we’ll be going out for a late lunch/early dinner and the book store! This is kind of a big deal because the only decent book stores we have are an hour away.

How have you all been?! I’ve missed you!

Here’s what we’ve been up to this week:

Previously on Once Upon a Chapter:


There’s been quite a few purchases for my Kindle. There were a TON of YA deals on Friday. Still kept it under $20.00. I also received a few gifts. I’m trying to get it into my GoodReads. I’m also trying to clean up the hot mess that is my GoodReads shelves. πŸ˜‰

Next week I’ll return to pictures!


I finished a Goosebumps book on Friday night so this morning (Saturday) I’m at a loss for what I want to read next. Sometimes too many choices can work against you! Here are three possible candidates:

What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty
What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty is a book that I have out from the library. One of the FlossTube women I follow had read Moriarty’s newest release and really liked it and said she’d liked almost all of her books that she’d read so I thought I’d give this one a try.

You by Caroline Kepnes
You by Caroline Kepnes is a book that I have heard a lot of you talking about and it’s October so spooky (or maybe more creepy?) seems appropriate.

The Headless Ghost by R.L. Stine
The Headless Ghost by R.L. Stine is for the Goosebumpsalong hosted over at Books and Bullshit. I read the books out of order. Last week was supposed to be The Headless Ghost and this week was supposed to be The Ghost Next Door. I’ve already read The Ghost Next Door so this week I’ll read The Headless Ghost and then the week after that I may actually have my shit in order. πŸ™‚

What are you reading this week?



34 Responses to “The Sunday Post {10/9/16}”

  1. Greg

    Well first of all happy birthday! And I don’t think anyone ever REALLY has it all together lol blogging takes up so much time, but it is fun when we don’t take it too seriously I think. Anyway hope you have a great week. I liked the Liane Moriarty books I read so hopefully What Alice Forgot is good as well!

    Greg recently posted: Sunday Post #163
    • Stephanie

      Thank you! I’m starting to think maybe I just think everyone has it together. We must all be pretty good at making it look good. πŸ™‚ I’m glad to see someone else recommend her books. I hope your week is equally great!

  2. Deborah

    Oh that’s interesting… that book bloggers aren’t necessarily viewed as professional. I see a mixed group here in Australia as well I guess.

    Happy belated birthday and good luck with that balance!

    Deborah recently posted: Weekly check-in
    • Stephanie

      It’s disheartening but yes there are some people who kind of view bloggers as the scum of the book world. HOWEVER there are just as many wonderful people out there who view us as assets. πŸ˜€ And it certainly wasn’t many but all it takes is once unfortunately.

      Thank you! It’s totally a work in progress for sure.

  3. emma

    Happy birthday! I suppose with book blogging there is such a mix out there and I don’t think people realise how much goes into it. Still must have been disheartening. Hopefully you are back better and stronger and that work life balance. Have a good week.

    emma recently posted: Weekly update: 9th October, 2016
    • Stephanie

      Thank you! I’m sure some of them don’t realize the amount of work and there are too many who have behaved badly and given us a bad name. I feel like I am. It’s in my head that I do this for me and that’s all I need to be happy with it.

    • Stephanie

      Thank you! Right? I realized while filming my October TBR that it’s been probably 20 YEARS since I picked up a Goosebumps book. Between my birthday and that I felt my age today. Lol! It certainly seems like You will be a perfect read but I hope it isn’t too scary.

  4. Nick

    I wonder if I want to be part of the blogging community every few weeks. I always come back because it’s honestly the one hobby I’ve kept for the longest time. I’m sorry that you’ve been having a difficult time with it though. I have heard about not everyone viewing bloggers as professionals and given the one or two extreme behaviors you hear about these events, I can understand where some are coming from. But it definitely doesn’t seem fair to lump everyone because of a select few. *sigh*
    I guess you could tell yourself that you are doing this for yourself, for your fun and for you to make friends.
    You was a terrific book! I listened to it on audiobook and it was so fascinating and the narrator just was perfect. I hope you’ll hate-love Joe as much as I did! πŸ™‚
    Happy reading and have a lovely week ahead!

    • Stephanie

      I’m glad to hear I’m not alone. I’ve been in it for too long to just walk away from it all! I think I’m through it now but thank you for the empathy. πŸ™‚ Unfortunately I witnessed one of the badly behaved at this event and I get why some people don’t think kindly of us. I wouldn’t based on that kind of behavior.

      I am doing this for myself and I just need to keep remembering that and not get caught up in all of the hype and the mindset of “keeping up with everyone else”. It’s easier said than done.

      Glad to hear that You was good! I’m hoping it doesn’t creep me out too bad! *fingers crossed*

  5. Lillian @ Mom with a Reading Problem

    Happy birthday! Hope you took some time for yourself πŸ˜€ I understand the falling out of love with blogging thing. I’ve seen a lot of comments recently about bloggers and have experienced other bloggers who are just in it for free books and it makes me sick. I’ll be honest, I started blogging as a hobby but I take it seriously, especially when I receive a book for review. And like you I ran myself ragged promoting books for no pay (which is fine, it’s a hobby) but I’ve taken a step back and re-prioritized, like you have. I’m finding a good balance…I hope. Hope you enjoy your new reads and have a great week πŸ˜€

    Lillian @ Mom with a Reading Problem recently posted: Sunday Post #96 – Out of Pixie Dust
    • Stephanie

      Thank you! Time for me has kind of been today. I think a lot of new bloggers are attracted to the shiny ARCs and who can blame them? It seems like an exclusive club that every reader wants to be a part of. I know I’ve fallen to it more than once. Even after 6 years I still think it proves something in my weaker moments. I think that most of the time we figure it out after the first time the responsibility of it really hits home.

      I’m so glad to hear of others kind of going through the same kind of process. It’s good to know we aren’t alone!

    • Stephanie

      That is a good thing to keep in mind. I hope to never be static. Doesn’t it stink that we can’t always have our way? It would make everything so easy!

  6. Berls

    Happy birthday!! I’m 32 as well and I so don’t have my shit together, so don’t feel bad – you’re doing great!

    I think we all go through these moment with blogging – something only long time bloggers understand. Blogging is work – work I love, but work all the same. And then something (or a bunch of somethings) happens and you start to wonder if you love it. I think that making sure you keep it your own and don’t worry about others is key. I know it’s been for me. So welcome back and hope it stays what you love!

    • Stephanie

      Thanks! Good to know I’m not alone! I swear I know I’m 32 but some days I don’t feel much different than one I was 18.

      Exactly, it takes time away from other things I could be doing. I don’t get paid to do it but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m hoping to keep that in the front of my mine. That I AM proud of what I’ve done and the actions of others or the thoughts of others shouldn’t make me feel shame for something I haven’t done. Thank you for that. I’m sure it will stay what I love if I can remember that and with the help of bloggers like yourself. πŸ™‚

  7. Beth W

    Happy birthday! 32 is a great age. πŸ™‚
    Also, I’m glad you’ve found balance and given yourself permission to do what you love and not try to keep up with the Joneses.
    I loved What Alice Forgot, so I hope you enjoy it! And I look forward to hearing what you think of You (which I haven’t read…yet).

    Beth W recently posted: German Pancakes with Apple
    • Stephanie

      Thanks! It’s so much better than not having a birthday. So I’m good with it.

      YES! It’s a lesson I need to be taught repeatedly. I’m sure this isn’t the last time but I’m good for now. I’m so glad to hear that someone else enjoyed this book. I’m hoping that I do too. I’m sure I will as I’m not too picky.

  8. Samantha

    Girl I am 37 and I don’t have my shit together! A teacher I work with once asked our students to ask their parents “What moment or event made you feel like an adult”. I was like “Um….I don’t feel like an adult!” Sigh…
    Happy Birthday! I hope you enjoyed the bookstore!

    Samantha recently posted: Sunday Post Week 41
    • Stephanie

      YES! SO glad someone else has this feeling. It’s still bizarre to me that I live in a house that I own with my husband and we pay bills and shit. I think my issue is that I don’t feel like this is part of being an adult but it’s just something you DO. Maybe that sounds weird that’s just the best way I can explain it.

  9. kimbacaffeinate

    Happy Birthday Stephanie, and heck I just turned 50 and I am still a work in progress. The only thing I have on lock is that I am confident with who I am and no longer give a rats ass about others opinions. I am sorry about the conference experience. Don’t let a few bad eggs spoil the bunch. Hope this week is amazing πŸ™‚

    kimbacaffeinate recently posted: Sunday Post #234 A New Reading Chair
    • Stephanie

      Thanks you! I want to be to that stage at some point. I feel like I’m almost there but not entirely. It wasn’t a horrible experience. I’m sure you know as well but all it takes is one incident. I still had a great time but there were a few times when I definitely felt like I had crashed the party even though the organization hosting the conference had no problem taking my money. I’m totally not going to let it spoil anything. It took me a few months to figure it out but I think I’m good now.

      I hope you have an equally amazing week Kimba! You certainly inspire me to blog. I find it amazing how much you accomplish!

  10. Amanda Shofner

    Happy birthday, Stephanie! Turns out, I *thought* I had my shit together, and then I got laid off, and everything went to hell. So you’re not alone in feeling that way. <3 If On a Book Bender had been my only website, I probably would have stuck with it, even though it's definitely not what it once was… it's hard sometimes. *hugs*

    Amanda Shofner recently posted: Know when to let go
    • Stephanie

      Thank you! Wow. I can’t believe I missed all of that! I’ve been avoiding twitter for awhile now. It’s gotten way too political and I’ll come back a few months after the election and everyone has calmed down a little. I’m so sorry that you had to go through all of that. But it’s also good to know that I’m not alone.

      I also can’t believe I missed your goodbye post. I completely understand your decision and it was one that I battled with for awhile. I’ll miss On a Book Bender but I’m so glad to know we can stay in touch! You’ve been such an influence on me as a blogger and I’d hate to see you disappear completely. *fierce hugs*

    • Stephanie

      Thank you! I’m pretty sure that I’m back on pace. I need to get caught up again but it doesn’t seem like such a daunting task now. I think I’ll be able to do that more easily going forward. πŸ™‚

  11. La La in the Library

    I am so happy you have decided to continue blogging. I saw a few bloggers posting about similar feelings after attending BEA, but other bloggers who have been to several BEAs say the industry’s attitude towards book bloggers is getting better. I think it will be slow going with librarians though because they feel they are the only legitimate source of literary information. There are a lot of book bloggers who are going to college for Library Sciences, so hopefully this will change the atmosphere between bloggers and librarians at some point. Have a wonderful week. πŸ™‚

    • Stephanie

      Exactly! A love of books doesn’t require a degree or full time job in the industry. Of course I think most of us would love to work in the industry but not everyone can and book blogging opens up an outlet for those of us that can’t. Or for those who do and just love books that much!

      Of course there were other librarians there who thought it was great that bloggers devote so much time and money towards spreading book love so it’s a mixed back like everything else. πŸ™‚

  12. Maggie

    Oh, I hate being the center of attention too and dread my birthday for that exact reason! Like you, I went through a spell of wondering how I feel about blogging and reading both. I felt like I put too much pressure on myself concerning books and writing and went on a hiatus for a bit. During my break, I debated deleting my blog. I’m glad now that I didn’t because I realized how much I love blogging about books; I just try not to put unnecessary pressure on myself when it’s supposed to be all about fun! Have a great week! πŸ˜€

    Maggie recently posted: The Power Of Suggestion
    • Stephanie

      That’s exactly what happened with me Maggie. I pretty much stopped doing both and it was probably the best thing that I’ve ever done. Distance made the heart grow fonder in this case. I’m such a perfectionist that if it isn’t done to my exacting standards I’ll pretty much just abandon it completely. I’m working on that. Here’s to both of us deciding to keep on keeping on! πŸ˜€

  13. Jane @ Raincity Librarian

    YAY I’m also 32 and have NO idea what I’m doing with my life – join the club! πŸ™‚

    Unfortunately I know a lot of librarians who tend to take themselves way too seriously, and have a bit of a snobbish attitude – they have a fancy degree, which for some reason puts them on a pedestal. Also, because of all the pressures on libraries these days, a lot of librarians are constantly on the defensive, feeling like they always need to justify their profession – I’m allowed to say this because I’m a librarian! But I know that knowledge comes in all sorts of forms and from all sorts of places, and that a title or a degree doesn’t make a person’s knowledge necessarily more valid than anyone else’s. We all have thoughts and ideas that are worth sharing! I learn so much from my fellow bloggers, so keep your chin up and forget about the snobs! πŸ˜‰

    • Stephanie

      There seems to be quite a few of us at 32. πŸ™‚ It was a very good year. Lol! Glad to know I’m not alone.

      I can totally see that. I know at our local library there are certain librarians who are willing to talk books with people and others who are there because it’s a job. Of course most bookish people realize libraries are still vital to the community. Thank you for the kind words. I know when you have such a large group of people not everyone is going to get along and that’s alright. I think I just might need a tougher skin! πŸ˜€

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