This theory came to me one day while I was pondering the book blogging community and my place in it. I was thinking about the bloggers that I interact with on a regular basis, the bloggers that are super popular, and the bloggers that I haven’t heard of and had just started meeting. The book blogging community is vast. I was thinking of a few of the bloggers that I find charismatic and am drawn too. Are they that charismatic in real life? Do our personalities follow us to our online identities? I have never understood how someone can be a completely different person online than they are in real life. I don’t think that there are many people who completely make up new personas. If you believe in that logic then yes our personalities online probably follow closely to our personalities in real life.
Following that logic, I am an introverted book blogger. I love talking about books and talking with other book lovers. I’ve made some great friends through book blogging. In real life, I don’t talk a lot. During my lunch breaks, I’m more likely found with a book than gossiping with co-workers. I don’t chit chat a lot with them either. I have a few that I talk to regularly and on various topics but they are few. I feel like this has followed me into my blogging habits as well.
When I first started blogging (over 5 years ago now!) my idea of success was having all the people visiting, commenting, and generally just adoring my baby Once Upon a Chapter. And of course, my choice of ARCs and publishers to work with. Sure all that adulation would be wonderful but I don’t think I’d be able to maintain it. Introverts very often need to be left alone. Or you know have a night at home with just a book for company. It’s how I recharge at least. I couldn’t imagine being “on” all the time.
It’s taken me this long to realize no part of me wants that. It’s not who I am and I wouldn’t be able to handle it realistically. All those ARCs turn into pressure for me. Being social shouldn’t feel like a responsibility and I know that’s what it would turn into for me. I do this for me. I have a few bloggers that I talk to regularly. I love their blogs and our reading tastes align. I also know that if I ever asked them for help, they’d do it if they could. They are great people. My introvert self is okay with this.
Are you an introvert or an extrovert? How do you think this affects your blogging?