Blog Tour: The Secret Life of a Submissive

Posted April 10th, 2013 by in *Review / 2 comments

the secret life of a submissiveTitle: The Secret Life of a Submissive
Author: Sarah K
Publisher: Harper
Publication Date: Dec 2012
Classification: Adult Novel

Summary from Goodreads:
Sarah K has a secret.

By day she’s a writer and level-headed single mother; by night she’s a submissive, surrendering herself to forbidden delights. But will she perform the most illicit act of all – falling in love?

Written with complete honesty, this is an electrifying journey to the heights of pleasure; a real-life Fifty Shades of Grey.

When Max comes into Sarah’s life – charming, handsome and deliciously brooding – she can’t stop herself. Before long she has surrendered to him in every way: becoming his submissive, yielding her body to his every desire, powerless to fight his sensual temptations.

As Sarah pushes her mind and body to its limits, she begins to realise that she’s in too deep. Pleasure and pain have become her world. She’s addicted – to the adrenalin, to the sensation, to Max himself.

Now she’s in serious danger of giving in to the ultimate temptation: falling in love…

Daring, evocative and thrilling, but told with wit and honesty, this is the explosive true story of life as a submissive, and of a secret world in which only a few dare to play.

My Thoughts:

I didn’t really know what to expect from this book. I’ve read many adult romance books as well as erotica or BDSM themed stories. However, I have to say that this story is almost a mix between a BDSM themed story, a chick lit book, and a non-fiction biography of Sarah. It is certainly unique and not like anything I have ever read.

When I started reading the book I was a little taken back by it. The story started out very chick lit in the way it was done. There were several middle aged women sitting around a table discussing their feelings and their sex lives. I was starting to wonder if the book was going to be for me or not because I really don’t like to read books about middle aged people having a midlife crisis and going out to look for themselves. So while I did think the beginning portion of the book was interesting it wasn’t fully to my taste. As the story went on and as Sarah left her husband in order to finally look for a BDSM relationship I was a little surprised, it seemed out of character for her but I was with her rooting her on. I mean every woman deserves to find her sexual equal or try new things even after a long marriage and a divorce. Just because a woman has had kids doesn’t mean she becomes any less desirable or any less valuable in the eyes of a man. I was proud of her to stand up and take control of her own sexuality. I really feel that this book is truly about watching Sarah try to find out what works best for her and where she wants to be in life. She needed to figure out what her sexual preferences are.

Then we get to meet the Dom of the story Max. I did like him from the start and I enjoyed learning about his character and the things he had done in the past that lead him to being the Dom that he was in the book. I was happy that he was there to be the man to show Sarah all of her desires and a fair amount of pain along the way. I greatly enjoyed the fact that the author didn’t sugar coat the pain aspect of a BDSM relationship. She really laid everything out on the line for readers to read about the true lifestyle and what it really means to have a Dom and be a Sub. This is certainly no watered down Fifty where the lifestyle is so watered down that it can’t possibly be real erotica. This offered up real erotica and a real relationship and it felt so real and the characters came to life on the page. I was taken with them but I knew where the relationship would go and I was surprising happy with the way everything turned out.

Overall I’m really glad I gave this story a chance because it can be really eye opening. The author stresses that a BDSM relationship might not be best for everyone, that people do experience physical pain and yet pleasure and a sense of belonging when they are in a loving relationship as a Dom and Sub. She does not go about it to degrade women or say that everyone woman should be so open with her sexuality, she is simply sharing her story and it was a great story to read. I believe that readers who have an interest in erotica and BDSM should read this book for the erotica book feel but also mixed with real life events such as a work of non-fiction. The story is a gem that I feel hasn’t gotten a lot of air time in the blogging and book world. So do yourself a favor and give this novel a chance because I feel you will be quite happy in the end.

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2 Responses to “Blog Tour: The Secret Life of a Submissive”

  1. Heather J @ TLC Book Tours

    I’m glad that you enjoyed this book – it is certainly a different kind of book and I am very much looking forward to reading it.

    Thanks for being on the tour. I’m reading your review on TLC’s Facebook page today.

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